It wasn't the first time either. He's used that term on several occasions since the birth of our son, seven months ago.
Now for those of you who don't know - a MILF is an acronym for "Mum I'd Like to (insert four letter F word here)", made popular by the 1999 comedy American Pie.
Some definitions (yes there are several) describe MILF's as women with grown children.
Others imply promiscuity.
Others again say the term can be applied to any mum you'd like to .... well, you get the picture.
So, was it a compliment, or should I have been offended by another sexually charged label for women?
Coming from hubby, I can't say I had a problem with it - it was all in good fun after all.
A light-hearted way of saying "No honey, you're bum doesn't look big in that skirt."
But I suspect it's all relative.
When my brother's friends labeled my mum a MILF, I'm sure he was less than impressed.
How my mum felt? Well I can only speculate, but I'm sure I detected a small grin as he told the story.
Former supermodel and still-gorgeous Cindy Crawford says she's more than happy to be a MILF.
"MILF is a word I absolutely adore!” she told GQ magazine.
Jim Carey's wife, 37 year old Jenny McCarthy says she is hoping to be dubbed a GILF (Grandma I'd Like to ....) when Carey's 22-year-old daughter gives birth in 2010.
For Crawford though, while she's a proud MILF, she says she finds the common Cougar term not so appealing.
"I hate that word cougar and what it represents."
That being a woman over 40 who sexually pursues younger men, typically more than eight years her junior, according to Wikipedia.
Some women are offended by the term, while others celebrate it, deeming it liberating and powerful.
But these are just two of a stack of labels applied to describe women, their actions or the male view of them.
Along with MILF and Cougar, there's Girl-Next-Door, Gold-Digger, Feminist, Tart, Yummy Mummy, High- Maintenance, Low-Maintenance, Nag... and of course several others too rude to spell out.
And the blokes don't escape the labels either - there's Sugar Daddy, Player, Silver Fox, Toy Boy, Under-The-Thumb - to name a few... and again, there are others I'll refrain from writing here.
Most of these colloquial terms are so common, they're now permanent fixtures in our every day language and a solid part of popular culture.
Some consider this type of label-giving offensive, and on some occasions they can be.
Often though it's all just a bit of fun.
But I guess it depends on the particular label and who's applying it.
Who would want to be called a Gold Digger or Under-The-Thumb in all seriousness?
On the other hand, Yummy Mummy and Silver Fox*, aren't so offensive.
And if we're all being honest, I wonder how many mums out there wouldn't take a bit of secret pleasure from being dubbed a MILF.
*Silver Fox refers to an attractive older male
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If I was a mother I would love to be called a MILF. lol...
ReplyDeleteI also can't wait until my man gets a little grey hairs, because I think its sexy. LMAO... He is 27 so it might be awhile before he does but something about men with salt/pepper hair always gets me excited ;)
MILF... I think I'd consider having kids just to hold that title!
ReplyDeleteI love this post! I'd love to be called a MILF when/if I have kids someday. All in good fun of course.
ReplyDeleteI think all labeling is offensive because it slaps a shallow definition based on stereotypes on someone or something. But that aside, I think "MILF" and "cougar" reflect the changing (albeit slowly changing) view of women in today's society. You can still be sexy and desirable after having kids. I think it's empowering and breaths new life to the role of women in today's world.